For any real music or movie lover, you are drawn to stories. You are drawn to stories that can make you feel, laugh, cry. You like to feel that you are connected to something bigger than yourself. You like to feel that you aren’t the only one feeling what you are feeling or going through what you are going through. You are connected to humans, to society, to people and individuals. And when you meet a movie or piece that speaks to you in a particularly special way, you’ve found a piece of yourself.
During the time A Walk To Remember and The Notebook came out, I was your typical shy and quiet girl who often kept to herself. I was that girl who quietly spoke but always smiled. I offered my friendship to those who needed or wanted it. When I had the chance to sit and collect my own thoughts, however, I had confidence. I held true my own values and beliefs. When I found something I felt strongly about, I held on tight.
For years, I always wondered why I grew such a strong and deep admiration for celebrities–musicians, actors, actresses. My young self always felt it was as if I felt more drawn to them than I did any one else in my own life.
When you are young, you look for those things that tell you something about yourself; you want to know who you are because you don’t quite know who you are yet.
When I took the time to draw out my own feelings and reactions and see why something made me feel so good, I found that it was simply because–like I always say–I found a piece of myself in these characters.
Jamie: You don’t know the first thing about being someone’s friend.
Landon: I don’t want to just be your friend.
Jamie: You don’t know what you want.
Landon: Neither do you. Maybe you’re just too scared that someone might actually want to be with you.
Jamie: And why would that scare me?
Landon: Because then you wouldn’t be able to hide behind your books, or your frickin’ telescope, or your faith. No, no, you know the real reason why you’re scared? It’s cause you wanna be with me too.
What drew me more to these cliché films were the strength of the characters portrayed—their ambitions, their motives, relationships, and result of actions. I fell more in love with the characters than their actual story. Relating to characters gives you something more to hold onto.
In the scene above, that fear of companionship, vulnerability, and of not being able to “hide behind your books, or your frickin’ telescope, or your faith” was something that really resonated with me in my young life. And, with a first love, I was scared to be with someone.
Jamie: You know what I figured out today?
Jamie: Maybe God has a bigger plan for me, than I had for myself. Like, this journey never ends.
Sometimes, characters reveal light and parts of you you weren’t aware of. Maybe they resonate with the way you approach your own life.
In the scene above, I found that Jamie’s approach resonated with my own–of finding faith in that “God has a bigger plan for me, than I had for myself.” Letting go and letting life happen (as you continue to do you) automatically puts expectations aside and fortunes in front.
This scene from The Notebook is the sole scene that hits me the most–however–to “stop thinking about what everyone wants.”
Young Noah: Will you do something for me, please? Just picture your life for me? 30 years from now, 40 years from now? What’s it look like? If it’s with him, go. Go! I lost you once, I think I can do it again. If I thought that’s what you really wanted. But don’t you take the easy way out.
Young Allie: What easy way? There is no easy way, no matter what I do, somebody gets hurt.
Young Noah: Would you stop thinking about what everyone wants? Stop thinking about what I want, what he wants, what your parents want. What do YOU want? What do you WANT?
Young Allie: It’s not that simple.
Young Noah: What… do… you… want? God dammit, what do you WANT?
Maybe you find that you aspire to be like these individuals–and not for the mere, “I want a love like that,” kind’a deal–but because they embody parts of yourself that you have hidden from yourself.
And while A Walk To Remember and The Notebook may not entirely be yours, what’s beautiful is when these moments can reveal your spirit and inner core when you can’t quite explain yourself. These moments shine light onto yours.
I have found that as we are all human–one and the same–we are capable of feeling the same feelings. We are able to see pieces of ourselves in others. And we can empathize.
The reason we become so sentimental about specific films or even songs is because they all tell the story of us. They move us, change us, cause us to remember and inspire… They bring you back to an immense awareness of your own feelings.
Above all, they connect us together; and, in this life, that is what we thrive on.